The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri

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Fiction| Diaspora| Family| Culture
Rating: 4.5

Sometimes I feel like a book chooses me rather me choosing it, and The Namesake is one such book that arrived precisely at the right moment in my life. It deeply resonates with my current state of mind, that diasporic feeling of not fully belonging anywhere, the quiet feeling of identity crisis, and confused decisions. Jhumpa Lahiri in The Namesake perfectly captures the immigrant experience and emotional turmoil of leaving behind one’s motherland, family, and friends to start a new life in a new country. 

This “big move” is a process of experiencing happy times, difficult times, and questionable times, which often involve uncertainty and fear. And of course, there’s always hope of things getting better as time passes. But there is never a time when we stop wondering “Was this the right decision?” 

Through Ashima and Ashoke, the author portrays the quiet resilience required to build a life from scratch. Despite these numerous feelings, Ashima tries her best to adapt to the American lifestyle with her husband, Ashoke. The Ganguli family forms friendships within the Indian community, spends weekends together, and gradually creates a small world that feels like home. Ashima terribly misses her family when their son is born. She waits for years for her grandmother to send her a telegram naming the baby as it has been their age-old tradition. But when no message arrives, Gogol which was initially meant to be a placeholder becomes the official name of their son.

As the story progresses, we see life through the eyes of the children, Gogol and Sonia. Their childhood is marked by frequent trips to India for festivals, for the loss of loved ones, for spending time with the family, or to stay connected to the familiarity of their culture and traditions. For the children, this dual existence is confusing and, at times, burdensome. They struggle to relate to a culture that feels both theirs and not theirs. But as they grow old, Gogol realizes the hardships that their parents had to face upon uprooting their lives. A sacrifice he cannot imagine doing himself.

The Namesake is not simply a story with a beginning and an end, it is an experience. It is a story of a family that I got to know in a few pages of this book. I can see myself getting to know the Ganguli family if I ever lived on Pemberton Road. I can imagine sharing their feelings of loneliness and trying to recreate a mini India just to feel at home. Just to have that sense of familiarity and comfort. As I complete reading this book on my flight from India to Pennsylvania, I fondly close the book and my eyes with a warm feeling, processing the emotions, and remembering all the times that I spent with my loved ones. I take these memories along to a country that I now call my home. 

PS: The Namesake is a winner of the Pulitzer Prize. It is a beautifully written novel with an intriguing story that speaks not only to immigrants but to anyone who has ever felt suspended between worlds. A definite must-read!

Emotional Strength Explained By Alicia Pozsony

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Self-help| Self-improvement| Life| Emotions

A quick, powerful, and effective self-improvement workbook – aimed to help us build emotional strength by practicing a healthy lifestyle.

Emotional Strength Explained by author, Alicia Pozson, is a quick, powerful, and effective workbook that is aimed to help us build emotional strength. In life, we often have ups and downs and we face challenging circumstances that can affect us in many ways. This book teaches us to acknowledge those emotions and weaknesses, accept them, and work towards becoming emotionally strong. 

Emotional Strength Explained is more than just a self-help or self-improvement guide, it is a workbook with a targeted approach. It asks you questions that we might often ignore, they are simple questions but important ones that we need to prioritize. It encourages you to self-analyze and write down your vulnerable emotions and deepest thoughts so you can face your fears. Healing always begins with self-awareness, self-talk, and self-love. It is a slow and step-by-step approach towards building emotional strength. The practice worksheets in this book will help you track your progress so you can emerge as a strong and confident person.

It is a wonderful book that shares the secrets of success and inner peace. It teaches you to find solutions, to face criticism or judgment, and self-reflect on your thoughts. The best part about this workbook is that you can always come back to it every year or whenever you find it necessary to continue making this journey stronger.

Once you have the strength and bravery to be open to see things you may not want to see, you are ready for the next thing.

– Alicia Pozsony

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Now, stay still my restless mind
You’re wandering into the wild
Stay still my racing heart
You’re falling deep into those eyes
Stay still my pursed lips
You’re tracing poetry along his smile
My trembling fingers reach out to him
He walks away oblivious of my yearning desires.

Poems that Inspire!

Just felt like sharing this remarkably beautiful piece of poetry written by Maya Angelou:

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

BY MAYA ANGELOU

Still I Rise” from And Still I Rise: A Book of Poems.
Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou.
Published by Penguin Random House